4 Things You Should Ban From Your Relationship
James Kayindi, Apr 12, 2017
When you are engaged, you will at some point have to meet your future in-laws if you haven’t already. Impressing the in-laws when you meet them for the first time is important if you hope to have a peaceful engagement and marriage. Below are some tips you should keep in mind when meeting the in-laws for the first time.
First impressions really matter and you should definitely dress the part when you are meeting the in-laws for the first time. This is especially so if the future in-laws you are meeting are more traditional. For ladies, this means you should not dress up in very short mini-skirts or in any body hugging clothes.
For men, no torn jeans or clothes that are too casual. Overall, try to look good when you are meeting the in-laws for the first time as this is what they will use as a yard-stick to judge if they like you or not.
You need to know who you are going to meet before the D-day. Get as much information as you can about their likes and dislikes. This can help you strike a good conversation with them while at the same time you avoid crossing their paths. For example, if the dad hates smokers, you do not want to meet him for the first time smelling like a chimney.
You may not be the most polite individual out there, but try to be one when meeting your future in-laws. Use polite words such as “thank you,” “please,” and “yes” in your conversations. Also remember you actions matter, the little things you can do such as helping out with something in the house can go a long way.
This is not about faking it but rather getting them to like you from the start. Faking it is not a wise thing as some parents can easily pick out phonies; this might be detrimental to the success of the day.
In a country such as Kenya, culture is very important. Keep this in mind when meeting the in-laws for the first time. Show respect to their beliefs and culture. You can do this by learning one or two things about their traditions before the material day. A good grip of the basics such as greetings and how to address the elders will do you a lot of good.
When meeting the in-laws for the first time, you will easily impress them if you come bearing gifts. Find out from your fiancée what is appropriate and then buy that. You do not want to imagine that you are a good gift giver and end up buying a good bottle of wine for his/her dad who is a recovering alcoholic.